Bernard Gray

Bernard Maxwell Gray

Friday, March 18th, 1927 - Thursday, July 23rd, 2020
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GRAY, Bernard Maxwell
Bernie passed away peacefully on July 23, 2020 at Northumberland Hills Hospital, at 93, just weeks before his 75th wedding anniversary with his devoted wife and life partner, Kate (Kitty). Cherished father of Carol Gray, Dianne Gray-Thompson (Tom Thompson), Kathleen Gray and David Gray (Elaine). Proud “Papa” to Paul Seggie (Erika), Lee Thompson, Jay Seggie (Katelyn), Glenn Thompson, Breanna Gray (Devon) and great grandsons Jack, George, Anderson and Maxwell Seggie.

Bernie found meaning through faith, family and hard work. A Salvation Army bandsman for over 70 years, Bernie enthusiastically helped organize Salvation Army kettle drives, played in S.A. bands at Riverdale, Scarborough, Clearwater (FL), Bracebridge, Georgina; and with the Salvation Army’s Heritage Band in Ontario and in the U.K.

Some of his most treasured memories were summers spent building and upgrading his cottage, swimming and water skiing with his kids, friends and relatives. He and four of his brothers owned and operated several locations of Gray’s Hardware in Toronto, East York and Scarborough.

In their retirement years, Bernie and Kitty called many places home before moving to Legion Village in Cobourg. Celebration of Life at a later date. Please email condolences to: Donations in Bernie’s memory may be made to the Cobourg (Salvation Army) Community Church. Special thanks to Dr. Mule, Dr. McGarry and the wonderful nursing staff at NHH.
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Carol Gray

Posted at 07:35pm
In spite of the fact that Dad was 93 I think it’s fair to say that we, his children, were blindsided by his death. I certainly was. Because he was a man in constant motion, our ‘Energizer Bunny,’ it’s really hard to consider now that new days will start without him. Frankly, honestly, I often thought I would die before him.
We still joke about Dad’s frugality with money, but I don’t think I know anyone more generous of spirit. When I met someone from Legion Village just the other day and she learned I was Bernie’s daughter she made sure I knew how much his kindness would be missed, the way he always helped others with their parcels getting off the bus. The wife of a long-time employee told me she and her husband held Dad in such high regard that they had determined, if they had a son, he was to be named Bernard.
And, just to give you an idea, when I ran into difficulties with my heart some years back and things weren’t looking too good, Dad pulled me aside to say very quietly, just so only we could hear, “Maybe I could give you my heart.” I know he meant it.

Joan Gray

Posted at 11:45am
Dear Kate, Carol,Di, Kathleen, David and your extended Family

I am so saddened by Bernie's passing. I know what you are all going through. He is now with his Lord. I know you will miss him as a wonderful father and the dearest of husband's. I know the girls and Dave will be a big comfort to you, keep them close. Love to you all and May God Bless You All.

Love Aunt Joan

Brian Mackey

Posted at 10:00am
Words cannot properly convey the sadness felt at the sudden loss of Uncle Bernard. It was impossible not to respect him as a good man who lived his faith. Thank God that we had him for so long in all of our lives. We were the lucky ones. I hope that our beloved Aunt Kitty takes comfort in the heartfelt words of love and remembrance on these pages. We send our love to Aunt Kitty.
Brian and Carolyn Mackey

Glennice and Ken Bonnar

Posted at 10:49pm
Dear Aunt Kitty, Carol, Dianne, Kathleen and Dave,
We want to express our deep sorrow to all of you and your extended family in the Promotion to Glory of a dear Uncle. How wonderful it was that we were able to meet together at Lois' last September!
Ken first met Bernard in 1958, when he joined the Scarborough Citadel Band. He knew him as a friend, fellow musician, employer at Howard Street and as a hockey team member. Then in 1965, Ken became a part of the Gray family and was happy to call him, "Uncle"!
We have many fond memories. but one that stands out was Uncle Bernard's trip to BC in 1994 to join his brothers, Wally and Reg who were visiting us, before he travelled on to see Carol. What a great time we had showing the three brothers as much as we could in the time we were together!
We pray that the God of all comfort will bring you peace and the assurance of His presence in the days to come. 2Cor. 1:3-4
With our love and prayers, Glennice and Ken


Kathleen Gray Posted at 11:34am

What a lovely memory you have of Dad's trip to the west coast. I have so many memories, but the trips we took together as a family certainly stand out...... the many trips to Florida by car in the late 60's and later Ranchero Village, a wonderful trip to Halifax and PEI in the summer of '73 in their Airstream trailer. I think that's how I caught the 'travel bug'. My parents have albums filled with the countries and places they travelled to. We all take comfort in knowing that Dad lived a very full and productive life!! xo

Tom Thompson

Posted at 06:17pm
Papa was like a second father to me. From the day I met him in 1968 as a 16 year old kid, he always treated me with respect. His faith and loyalty to the Lord and family was admirable right to the end of his life. He was a role model for myself and my children. To this day II still throw slot and Phillips screws over my shoulder and will never have a home without stubby drivers, paper towels and a putty knife. Thanks Papa for being there for me and my family.
Tom Thompson

Kathleen Gray Posted at 10:44am

Dad and his tools were inseparable! I learned so much about tools, working alongside him at the hardware store and later watching him complete projects around the house and cottage. As a young girl, my dad taught me how to change a plug on an electrical appliance. He considered it an easy repair to do and said that he never wanted me to have to pay someone else to do it. And he's right; it just requires a good pair of wire strippers!

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